Last year half term was a week earlier and by the time NaBloPoMo started the kids were back at school. Not so this time around and our hectic half term schedule has seen us travel back 5hrs in the car followed by emergency shopping and two karate lessons this avo followed by me crashing and burning over a takeaway and hot bath. So here I am at 11pm putting in my first post…. kinda ironic when I’m planning on putting in a series of posts over NaBloPoMo about time management…. no, I’m not even joking!!! Hey ho.
Anyhow, we took these rather cute pics of the kids last night…. have to admit I copied the idea from a friend, but I think they’re rather cool anyhow
Seems the job hunting lark is a bit like the bloody men lark and the buses lark ….. and if you have no idea what I’m on about, take a look at Wendy Cope’s assessment of the situation. After sending off numerous applications and getting the ice freezing shoulder from all of the recipients (i.e. not a word to say whether I’d got anywhere or not….. I’m still waiting to hear, but I long ago ceased to be holding my breath) Continue reading →
Enfin – a blogging competition about something I can write passionately about. Kaplan, the language teaching people have set the The Kaplan Blogger Challenge, and asked me to write about the most important benefits of learning another language so here goes…… the first phase of the competition is about FB likes, so if you think what I’m saying below makes any sense to you, please hit the “like” button above…. thanks Continue reading →
I’ve been trying to cut down my dairy intake for a while now, to the point that I’m pretty much vegan – apart from the occasional bit of goats cheese. One of the challenges has been to find a good milk substitute which is no more expensive than conventional milk. I’ve never particularly liked soy milk and the nut and oat milks you can buy in the shops can be pretty expensive. So I’ve started to experiment with making our own milk. Continue reading →
I’m not talking about volunteering here, I do plenty of volunteering. @athriftymrsuk posted this tweet today “‘I thought since you trained in journalism and enjoy it you might do these two for free.’ is an actual quote from an email I received today”. I’m a singer and we do a lot of performances for free but really, to assume that your services will be free is just a damn cheek.
It’s great to volunteer and do things you believe in for free but really all of us big societyers have to eat too. Just sayin’
One of my tweetmates (@knittywittywoo) pointed me to a fabulous TED video today which I just had to share with you. It’s entertaining and very informative, do watch if you have a moment. Here it is:
Turns out, it’s kinda about NLP and how we can condition our brains for success, but I really like the spin on it which emphasises happiness and the way we’ve flipped the equation. So, the way we currently think about things is:
“If I work hard I’ll be more successful, if I’m more successful, I’ll be happier.”
This is broken thinking because 1. when we achieve our goals, we move the goalposts – you get good grades, you then want to get to the best university, you hit your sales target, your sales target rises etc. and 2. If happiness is on the other side of success, then you never get there, in fact, we keep pushing it away as our criteria for success get ever more ambitious.
What we actually need to do is to flip this around to:
“If I’m happy, I’ll perform better and have greater success.”
In effect, you’ll realise a “happiness advantage” by raising your happiness levels in the present. Your positive brain will perform much better than a neutral, negative or stressed brain.
I think there are a number of things at work here -
your positivity makes others feel positive about you so you end up in a positive feedback loop, gaining positive feedback, feeling better about yourself and getting more positive feedback etc
you start to pick out the positive things that are happening in your world and ignoring or putting less importance on the less positive things
being positive releases chemicals in the brain (dopomine and adrenaline) which make you more sensitive and open to all sorts of things including learning, excitement and love
You can train your brain to become more positive. There are a number of ways of doing this; Shawn Achor talks about doing the following things:
3 gratitudes – I’ve talked about this before in this post. Try to end every day thinking of the good things that have happened that day….. there is always something…. always…. if you can think of three good things, so much the better! Give thanks for the things which are good in your life and you’ll gradually find your attitude to all things changing.
Journaling – relive one positive thing that happens every day by writing about it. Try not to think too hard but write as a stream of consciousness.
Exercise – creates positive endorphins which make you feel better.
Meditiation – helps you focus on one thing and allows you to be calm.
Random acts of kindness – Do something unexpected and kind at least once a day. Give someone a compliment, give someone a gift, tell someone how much they mean to you.
You’ll be amazed at the results. Do just a couple of these things every day and you will change the way you view your world…… and changing your view, changes your reality….. don’t believe me, give it a go….. oh, and do let me know how you get on.
So, it turns out, that if we forget about success, we might just find ourselves more likely to achieve it!
If you like this post you might also like this one about the failure feedback loop or perhaps this about changing your thoughts.
I’ve been left to my own devices for a couple of days. Lucky me! The kids are off with Jamie at his mothers house and I had big plans. Unfortunately my surreal brain has amusingly disrupted the plans to tidy the house (now there’s a surprise). So far I’ve been involved in:
discussions over what Julian Clarey might have been doing in Scarborough yesterday
mulling over the concept of vidocam podcasts of a friends snoring
the delivery of bark chippings to a nearby street
crying with a great mate
the adoption of a telephone box to turn into a book exchange point
wild dancing in the kitchen to this - much to the neighbours amusement
lots of guitar playing on the front step to amuse passers by
jigging around again now to Bob Dylan
considering the methodone vs abstinence arguements
wedding attire decisions involving mad missoni trousers vs sophistication (I’m thinking bonkers is going to win today)
What do you do when you’re left to your own devices?
You might have noticed it’s been very quiet around here recently. Efforts have been going elsewhere I’m afraid. Gradually things are coming together though I have to report that getting back into the workplace after 7 years of working as a mummy is no easy feat….. it seems there are mountains to climb before mums are considered equal to those who stay in the workplace (controversial). This week has been very interesting. Continue reading →
Here in the west we think nothing of going to the toilet and pulling the chain/pushing the flush button. We now have dual flush loos, but we’re miles behind the 8 ball in the poop stakes…. Bet you’ve never thought about poop like this before….. Created by: OnlineNursingPrograms.com